AFRICAN AMERICAN RELATIONSHIPS: LET’S END THE CIVIL

Currently only 32% of our Black children are born into two parent families in America. In slavery and up through the 1960’s those numbers were in the low 80%s.

These numbers are scary, and suggest black men and women are in the midst of a Civil War.

And it’s gotta end.

First to my sisters, you undoubtedly have had some very hurtful experiences with black men. I feel your pain.

We have hurt you; and, unfortunately, you have hurt us, too.

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Fatal Mistakes Husbands Make After Their Wife’s Affair – And How to Avoid Them

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: What gender is the most faithful of them all? Is it a fairy-tail that women — at least good ones — don’t cheat!

Like many of you, I was surprised to read that Snow White star Kristen Stewart, was involved in a cheating scandal. As a marital therapist, I typically don’t put infidelity past anyone. However, Snow White was a great movie, and I bought into Kristen and enjoyed the way her character became an action hero or shero. (more…)

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7 Fatal Mistakes to Avoid When Selecting a Mistress – And How to Avoid Them

Highly decorated, former four-star General and Director of the Central Intelligence Agency has helped America succeed in Afghanistan, cripple Al Qaeda, and to prevail in various military campaigns through-out the world. At the same time, his over 37 years of experience in the United States Army did little to prepare America’s top spy for the stealth, cunning, and emotional instability of his most lethal opponent – Paula Broadwell, his biographer. (more…)

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BLACK MALE-FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS: HOW DO WE HEAL OUR PAIN?

Shane Perrault, Ph.D.,
Founder of AfricanAmericanMarriageCounseling.com

  1. In my last Blog post, I talked about the Civil War between Black males and females. I must admit your responses were overwhelming passionate, insightful, clever and thoughtful. I thank all of you who read, tweeted, commented and otherwise joined in.

With few exceptions, Black males and females alike felt “United We Stand; Divided We Fall.” In addition, there was a groundswell of concern about what specifically we can do to get past the pain. I agree we need specifics and not more rhetoric. (more…)

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ADHD RELATIONSHIPS: GETTING THE FOCUS BACK ON LOVE!

Miscommunications, un-kept promises, impulsive decisions, late arrivals -– these are just a few of the challenges that can arise between couples when one of them has ADHD.

These challenges are often rooted in differences in vantage points and communication styles. People with ADHD make sense of the world differently than others. For example, have you ever noticed that your partner hyper-focuses on things that truly grab his attention, and may tend to show up late because he got lost in time? Or that he tends to breaks promises to you, despite the fact that you have expressed your disappointment in this habit?

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ESSENCE MAGAZINE: DR. SHANE INTERVIEWED ABOUT QUESTIONS COUPLES SHOULD ASK BEFORE TYING THE KNOT

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When you’re happy and in love, the last thing you’re thinking about is that you may contribute to the rising divorce rates in the U.S. (about 52% of all marriages end in divorce). Marriage Counseling may help you work out some issues early on and avoid them in the long run.

ESSENCE.com spoke with Shane Perrault, Ph.D about the questions couples should ask themselves prior to tying the knot.

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BLACK VOICES ASKS DR. SHANE: “DO BLACK CELEBRITY WEDDINGS HELP THE BLACK COMMUNITY?

In this interview with “Black Voices,” Dr. Shane Perrault, marriage counselor and African American relationships expert, told Black Voices that high-profile black marriages like Barack and Michelle Obama, and Will and Jada Smith are good for the community.  African Americans are less likely than any other group in the United States to get married.

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