|“This single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” – George Bernard Shaw|
Having worked with over 3,000 couples since opening my private practice specializing in marital therapy in 2004, I’ve learned a lot about a tendency in couples to recall the same conversation in different ways — and dismiss or distrust their spouse’s perspective. This inability to get on the same page can undermine or destroy your marriage if you continue to just over talk or shut down on each other, and grow apart when you see your problems and/or the solutions differently. Over time, this practice can be catastrophic. I am thrilled to announce…“The ABCs of Communication.”
Of all the things we could do to help you build and leave a Legacy, this one is the absolute best.
Here’s what you will learn:
– The “3 Types of Problems” that ALL couples face — and how to overcome them.
– Understand the “Happy Couple” magic formula of 5:1, Positive to Negative events ration. Happy Couples make a habit and Unhappy Couples routinely violate.
– Why you may not have a communication problem, but a trust issue. I find most couples that come into my office are extremely articulate but do not trust the messenger. Therefore, it doesn’t really matter how well their message is articulated. Let’s start to address the real issue underlying most miscommunication: TRUST.
– How to understand the “ABCs of Communication” to become friends again (vs frienemies) and start reconnecting.
Plus, we’ll have some fun, too!
Where: AC HOTEL BY MARRIOTT 156 Waterfront Street, National Harbor, MD
When: Saturday, November 2, 2019 from 8:00 AM til 4:00 PM
If you have any questions, suggestions, or concerns, feel free to contact us at 301.588.4600.
See you there!
PS. Don’t wait to get registered. We’re looking forward to having you join us…LIVE! Tickets have been moving rapidly and seating is limited to 30 couples; therefore, if you are interested I encourage you to act quickly.
Currently only 32% of our Black children are born into two parent families in America. In slavery and up through the 1960’s those numbers were in the low 80%s.
These numbers are scary, and suggest black men and women are in the midst of a Civil War.
And it’s gotta end.
First to my sisters, you undoubtedly have had some very hurtful experiences with black men. I feel your pain.
We have hurt you; and, unfortunately, you have hurt us, too.
Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: What gender is the most faithful of them all? Is it a fairy-tail that women — at least good ones — don’t cheat!
Like many of you, I was surprised to read that Snow White star Kristen Stewart, was involved in a cheating scandal. As a marital therapist, I typically don’t put infidelity past anyone. However, Snow White was a great movie, and I bought into Kristen and enjoyed the way her character became an action hero or shero. (more…)
Highly decorated, former four-star General and Director of the Central Intelligence Agency has helped America succeed in Afghanistan, cripple Al Qaeda, and to prevail in various military campaigns through-out the world. At the same time, his over 37 years of experience in the United States Army did little to prepare America’s top spy for the stealth, cunning, and emotional instability of his most lethal opponent – Paula Broadwell, his biographer. (more…)
Shane Perrault, Ph.D.,
Founder of AfricanAmericanMarriageCounseling.com
- In my last Blog post, I talked about the Civil War between Black males and females. I must admit your responses were overwhelming passionate, insightful, clever and thoughtful. I thank all of you who read, tweeted, commented and otherwise joined in.
With few exceptions, Black males and females alike felt “United We Stand; Divided We Fall.” In addition, there was a groundswell of concern about what specifically we can do to get past the pain. I agree we need specifics and not more rhetoric. (more…)
Miscommunications, un-kept promises, impulsive decisions, late arrivals -– these are just a few of the challenges that can arise between couples when one of them has ADHD.
These challenges are often rooted in differences in vantage points and communication styles. People with ADHD make sense of the world differently than others. For example, have you ever noticed that your partner hyper-focuses on things that truly grab his attention, and may tend to show up late because he got lost in time? Or that he tends to breaks promises to you, despite the fact that you have expressed your disappointment in this habit?
When you’re happy and in love, the last thing you’re thinking about is that you may contribute to the rising divorce rates in the U.S. (about 52% of all marriages end in divorce). Marriage Counseling may help you work out some issues early on and avoid them in the long run.
ESSENCE.com spoke with Shane Perrault, Ph.D about the questions couples should ask themselves prior to tying the knot.
Joy Keys interviews Dr. Shane, Lamar Tyler (Producer of “You Saved Me”), Nisa Muhammad (Founder of “Wedded Bliss” and “Black Marriage Day). This show discusses “do happy black marriages, and how to have one.”